“Ahoy do not touch that! You should never see what is in a lady’s handbag?” yes I said that a few days ago to a dear guy friend of mine when he put his hand on it to take out something. However when I saw this topic 'Taking conversations beyond low pitched whispers' at Blogadda I had to reconsider this queer and pre conceptualized idea, just one among the many which most of us own. Back to my handbag, frankly it did not have anything that a guy should not see. But yeah being a girl I had to tell him that and he was kind enough not to snub. Many of you may agree with what I did, something similar must have happened to you too. But if you were to look at instances like this from a sensible and simpler perspective, we all live in a very make believe world of femininity where in the open less is said and lesser is done. ‘Ladies Matter’ you see.
A week back or so I had blogged about it when this particular ad was under the limelight, as I said in that post there is a lot more to women empowerment. Matters as sensitive as intimate health are usually camouflaged under hesitancy, fear, myths and misconceptions. This happens even among the well educated. And more so among the men, if you were to ask the best of the gentlemen in town anything about what he knows of women, you will not be surprised if he come up with anything less than appreciably serious. The weak link is this:
Thus begins the entire problem. What has happened over the years and is happening in the past few days, everything in the news is proof enough. Also what we should not forget is that there is a thin line between privacy and opening up, knowing is necessary but what you do with the knowing is what is more important. What we know may go against somebody’s dignity, in such circumstances it is better to keep the issue behind the curtain. What we end up doing is keeping everything behind it for all safe purposes, and for that nobody in particular is to be blamed, a fault nevertheless.
‘The right to know, the responsibility to care and the freedom to share’ well it takes just that to make sure every woman keeps herself in the best of her state. This applies to every man too. I say this as a doctor having seen women, women from all classes who go through the same ordeal. There is no difference among them in fact. There is so much that needs to be done in every department that is concerned, from our thought to our action. A genuine approach by each one is the best start. Because each lady matters, she really does. What needs us and what we need, the sooner we realize and make the others realize the better.