Sunday, November 21, 2010

*Conditions Apply

Being on one side of the biological fence I think it is tough to figure out the wants and needs of the other half of population for men and women alike.We tend to generalize issues and qualities based on gender more than often.We all are born and built different and that is the way everything works.We claim to hail from different planets but do we know what really impels us to live together here.Do remember no matter how many hitches we face with the opposites,this world runs on a plan.

What men want is not a difficult question, neither easy.There is no common denominator and each man is unique in his own way it is hard to make a list of their requirements and demands. I don't know quite what is wrong or right with men being happy with materialistic, physical and emotional pursuits so I am not going to make a stereotyped list of things here,from ‘sleep,food and wine with a woman at home to call mine’,we all know them.And every lady has her own too.

So much is said and little is done about what women want, but when it comes to men little is said and more than that little is done.This thought is from no soft corner of anybody's heart, because we all are blindly in affirmation of a man’s power and strength.But men are vulnerable,very much like women.The general tendency of the universe is to move from order to disorder and since God and we all know when,most of the men dominate many scenarios and take life's really big decisions.So how much it can make or break a man’s character stays relative and is dependent on a variety of factors.With all the brains,muscles and hormones they can handle pressure and cope with the stress and live a life well,close to their expectations*conditions apply.

Men hang in a balance like all.With time their dreams and desires change,a toy gun at the age of five to the world’s most expensive car at the age of twenty five.But unless bonded emotionally men can be complete strangers,for most of them fail or do not feel the need to express unlike women;be he a son,brother,father,husband or a friend.If you look closely into a man's eyes for the first few seconds during a conversation you can see what he actually has to tell you,catch it at the right moment or else see it fade away with his other wayward expressions.An observation that I have made being with my dearest friend fellows is that although they are messy each one is weirdly lovable,and I will never want them to be anyone different.

If devastating prettiness can woo them,gadgets and repairs can keep them simply occupied.Men are meant to be out in the open,and by natural tendency all of them hate being caged in any manner against their will.Most of the men are not comfortable discussing their personal inadequacies and flaws,they need someone who makes them realize and helps to work on them.They need a sense of belonging and acceptance.In a life of ordinariness and day to day struggles that wears them down they need someone and something to get back to.

Sometimes they can be extremely sensitive and easily embarrassed.Not all men appreciate constructive criticism and not all women always give.Minor conflicts make life interesting as they leave us with something to learn about them.Men can confuse and get confused,they do remember the kinkiest of things amongst the many dates they forget.Many of us have this conventional opinion of men being terrified of commitment.But if a man found someone who genuinely brings completeness he would not want to let her go.Maybe he might not want to get married,but he will be madly in love with her and will never risk losing her.Men think different,behave more different.They are not perfect,they are just real like everything else.

Some things among the musts while handling a man are,never compare[they own a jealous bone too!]and let him stay independent,if possible do help.Let a man do something that he likes to do,something that he can do and something that is fun to do.Even more good if you let him do something that makes him feel like a 'man'.

“Men are simple things.They can survive a whole weekend with only three things:Beer,boxer shorts and batteries for the remote control”-Diana Jordan.


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Lakshminarayan Viju Ravichandran said...

A very well-written blog. Probably the only entry where I don't see the "s" word and many others.
And a good thought on the emotional bonding and expressiveness... seems quite true with men of the previous generation, while the current generation has this 's' word, Selfish :) (including me!)

Am sure, this blog will find a place in the top 5. All the very best!

Raksha Bhat said...

@Lakshminarayan Viju Ravichandran :Thank you:)

Ashish said...

well said. "The general tendency of the universe is to move from order to disorder".

I completely agree that we shouldn't hold on to stereotypes.

Men are like women but not women!

Beyond Horizon said... r not perfect dey r real like everythin else..thinkin sum ppl lack or few who dont want 2 understand
a must read post...esp by men:)
m sharing dis 1 on FB!

Raksha Bhat said...

@Ashish: The world runs on a plan...order to and women have equal roles:)...thanks for reading and liking:)

@Beyond Horizon: Glad to have you back and thanks for the appreciation:)

subtlescribbler said...

well written post, covers a lot of different aspects of what actually men want. all the best for the contest :)

Pratibha The Talent said...

your post is well written and loved every word and I completely agree with you about What man wants?

Raksha Bhat said...

@subtlescribbler: Thank you for reading:)

@Pratibha: Thank you Pratibha:)

A Restless Mind With A Sensitive Heart! said...

Hi Raksha!

Very nicely written post. Very balanced and written in a mature way.

Agree with ur - men keep busy with repairs thing!



Nalini Hebbar said...

Life is not about freedom to do just what one wants to can be free after he helps out with the household chores...there is no justice if a woman HAS to do these just so that a man can be free...both need their space and free time...there is a job to be done at home, and it could use 2 pairs of hands!...a woman hates repairing and man hates cooking, too generalized for my liking!...there are many who are different.
Very well shows the softness of your heart... you are a very gentle being, I bet!

Chandrika Shubham said...

Beautiful template. :)
Well written post. :)

Raksha Bhat said...

@A Restless Mind With A Sensitive Heart!:It is not just about repairs,they know they can set everything right.At the least they think and try to,not everyone maybe!Thanks for stopping by and reading:)

@Nalilni Hebbar:Haha!Thank you so much:)

@Chandrika Shubham:Thank you for liking the post,and ya the template is indeed appealing,credits to the Eternal Thinker:)

Anonymous said...

Nice post, enjoyed the part where "If devastating prettiness can woo them,gadgets and repairs can keep them simply occupied.Men are meant to be out in the open,and by natural tendency all of them hate being caged in any manner against their will" ... bet sometimes i just need to act like something is broken to gain attention :P


Raksha Bhat said...

@trupz: Thank you:)Glad you liked those parts:)